Personal Security is about being satisfied with one’s person. Accepting myself as I am is my greatest challenge in life.
If dad and mom are discontent, striving to meet the unsuitable standard of being someone more, and hoping others will affirm them as such, are they stable? No.
Insecure people are actors; they perform; and expend energy appearing to be what they aren’t. Authenticity is missing, so there’s a discordance between their actions, and true identity.
Is this couple good material for guiding a child? Won’t they rather teach the child to be a performer also, by their words and personality? Will they not impress upon the child the need to be MORE?
Sadly, many parents’ objective is making their child exceed who he is. Some even imagine their child’s success to further prove the parent’s competency.
In short, insecure parents naturally produce insecure ones, while secure parents instill security in theirs’.
So, be content to be you, and accept all as they are.