Personal Security

Personal Security is about being satisfied with one’s person. Accepting myself as I am is my greatest challenge in life.

If dad and mom are discontent, striving to meet the unsuitable standard of being someone more, and hoping others will affirm them as such, are they stable? No.

Insecure people are actors; they perform; and expend energy appearing to be what they aren’t. Authenticity is missing, so there’s a discordance between their actions, and true identity.

Is this couple good material for guiding a child? Won’t they rather teach the child to be a performer also, by their words and personality? Will they not impress upon the child theĀ need to be MORE?


Sadly, many parents’ objective is making their child exceed who he is. Some even imagine their child’s success to further prove the parent’s competency.

In short, insecure parents naturally produce insecure ones, while secure parents instill security in theirs’.

So, be content to be you, and accept all as they are.


About Stephen

I love diversity, and the opportunity to learn from everyone everywhere. My life has been one long adventure, from the jungle of Indonesia to the Amazon, and a few places in between. Multilingual and cultural, I adapt and find comfort in even the roughest spots, meeting challenges with relish.
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4 Responses to Personal Security

  1. I’m interested to notice that so far most of your blogs have been not about ‘what to do’ but ‘how to be’….it is the parent’s own insecurity that causes it in his child…not the other way around.

  2. Melonie says:

    Sometimes the only way to quit performing for ourselves and others is to be reminded of why we resist it so much in the first place. Thanks for the post.

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