The world over, children honor mothers. For many, mama loved eternally. She was constant, nurturing, spending unknown reserves, nursing baby while starving. She gave life; she resolved to preserve it at all costs.
Some praise mom for the idea she represents. Yearning for the genuine, they create cover stories for self-serving ones. They must. Children derive value from mama’s love without conditions; if performance is required, if disapproval’s her choice, it’s ignored. A card is given to thank mother, listing qualities the child chose to see.
Mothers aren’t always wonderful, but children hold them in high regard, for as the mother’s value, so the child’s.
So learn from your child. Choose just as they chose to believe in you. Praise not for doing well; they don’t honor you for performing! Admire purely for who they are, never for performance.
Disapproval is an outlaw, holding children hostage to performance. It destroys hope.
Admiring the person, not achievement, is the art of love. As one poet wrote:
“Love believes all things…”